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How often do you find yourself engaging in sexual behaviour that you told yourself you wouldn't?
Rarely or never / Occasionally, a few times a year / Regularly, most weeks or months / Frequently, it feels like a pattern I can't break
After engaging in this behaviour, how do you typically feel?
Fine, no particular feelings about it / Mild discomfort or unease / Shame, guilt, or frustration with myself / Deep distress, self-loathing, anxiety, or despair
How much of your sexual behaviour do you keep hidden from the people closest to you?
Very little, I'm generally open / Some things, I keep certain details private / A significant amount, there's a whole side they don't see / Almost everything, the gap between who they think I am and what I do is large
Has your sexual behaviour caused conflict, distance, or damage in a relationship that matters to you?
No, my relationships are unaffected / Some tension, but nothing serious / Yes, it has caused real damage or trust issues / It has ended or is threatening to end a significant relationship
Over the past couple of years, has the behaviour escalated, either in frequency, intensity, or risk?
No, it's stayed the same / Slightly, I've noticed some drift / Noticeably, I'm doing things I wouldn't have considered before / Significantly, the trajectory concerns me
How much mental space does sex, or thinking about sex, take up in your day?
A normal amount, it doesn't dominate my thinking / More than I'd like, it intrudes at times / A lot, it competes with work, relationships, and other priorities / It's nearly constant, I struggle to focus on other things
Has your sexual behaviour affected your ability to function, at work, financially, or in your daily life?
No real impact / Minor, occasional lost time or distraction / Moderate, it's costing me in ways I can see / Serious, it's undermining my ability to live the life I want
Do you use sexual behaviour as a way to manage difficult emotions, stress, loneliness, boredom, or anxiety?
No, my sexual behaviour isn't linked to my emotional state / Sometimes, I notice a connection occasionally / Often, it's become my go-to way of managing how I feel / Almost always, I don't have other ways of coping that work as reliably
Have you tried to stop or cut back on your own, and found it difficult?
I haven't felt the need to try / I've tried once or twice with some success / I've tried multiple times, it works for a while, then I'm back / I've lost count of the attempts, nothing seems to stick
Do you feel alone with this, like you can't talk to anyone about what's really going on?
No, I have people I can talk to honestly / Mostly, there's maybe one person who knows some of it / Yes, I've never spoken about this honestly to anyone / Completely, the isolation is one of the worst parts
